Thursday, February 26, 2009

Whispered

(whispered in darkness before sleep)

"Mama, I fink you're a sweetheart"
"I think you are too, Satch"
"fanks"

Have a good weekend. See you Monday.

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Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Blues Harp and Blanket Forts


In the jingle jangle morning I'll come following you...


We played harmonica; built blanket forts; read about bees; made a pretend hive; imagined the salad spinner was a centrifuge for honey; talked about trying to make chocolate truffles again; made play-doh cookies; whined some; ate snacks; had a tantrum; watched a movie; danced; pretended we were cavemen; cooked on a pretend campfire; launched rocket balloons; asked a T-rex to guard the fairy princess; wished it was warmer outside and that mama didn't have a "sore FROTE"...

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Tuesday, February 24, 2009

A Not So Good Afternoon

"I'm not sleepy and there is no place I'm going to" - Bob Dylan

Life's been pretty wild since Satch gave up his afternoon nap. I can see that he's tired, he frustrates easily and gets extremely irritable, but he still refuses to nap. And I know that when he's an adult, we will look back on such days together and laugh. However, I now have the leverage I need to guarantee myself a large box of chocolates in the future.



And I know I probably shouldn't have laughed, but his response to my question was really insane in the membrane, and the laughter did ease the tension.

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Monday, February 23, 2009

Most Alive Monday: Frogz

Back in September we learned that Imago Theatre would be performing in our hood in 2009 so we purchased tickets immediately. Friday eve was the big event and we had AWESOME seats. It was an awe inspiring, visual feast! And because I am the luckiest person on earth, I was incorporated into the show to play musical chairs with one of the penguins who then sat upon my lap, much to my son's delight.



*About Most Alive Monday: I've decided to make at least one "most alive choice" each day and post my favorite each Monday. This, of course, is to motivate me to consciously "live juicy"! I hope you'll join me and share your "most alive moment" in the comments section so we may inspire each other.

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Thursday, February 19, 2009

Slowing Down For Happiness...



the doorway that belongs to you and me - Mary Oliver






(A covered bridge on the trail)



























Have a good weekend. See you Monday.

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Wednesday, February 18, 2009

From the Heart

The Sunday before last we went to a Parenting From Your Heart workshop a sponsored by CNVC at the Washington Ethical Society. Satch spent the afternoon with his friend, R and was very excited about it. It was the first time ever he was in anyone else's care. When we returned he was happy to see us, but wasn't ready to leave.

The workshop was very insightful. Inessa and Bob spoke about using NVC as a parenting tool and demonstrated how to apply it with various role playing exercises. My hope is to get away from using "Time Out" even though we only use as a last resource.
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Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Chocolate Wha?

We made Chocolate Beet Root mini cupcakes for Valentine's Day. I wanted to make Red Velvet cakes, but am terrified of the red food coloring. The natural food coloring was 7 bucks for a little bottle - huh?!?! So I tried this recipe instead. And now, I'm reporting back on the cupcakes: There was no hint of red which was a definite bummer. They smelled good and earthy. On the first bite I thought I was about to be disappointed because it seemed bland, but then the dutch cocoa hit me. It was not very sweet unlike most cakes, so this was probably a good bet for the kidlets. I made some white chocolate cream cheese icing - rather yummy. I made a little pastry bag with a ziploc and Satch added a dollop to each mini cake.

We brought half of them to Satchel's Creative Zone class and the other half we devoured with Satchel's grandma who was visiting from NY.











Satch developed a nasty URI with a fever and a viral rash on his cheeks. The doc has ruled out Fifth's Disease and Strep as the rash looks more like Petechiae. The whole thing is a bit odd. Satch is on the sofa right now yelling, "get these germs out of my life" and he sounds more like a frog than a boy. I'm exhausted from his sleepless night.

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Thursday, February 12, 2009

Bedtime Book Basket

We have some faves in the bedtime book basket that are now dog-eared from love, so we thought we should tell you about them:

Whoever You Are by Mem Fox is a beautiful story that celebrates diversity by exploring our similarities. Satch likes to recite the last line, "Whoever you are, Where ever you are, All over the world".

Inside All is a journey from the universe into the heart of a child, reminding us that we are a part of the "ALL" and the "ALL is inside us.

Walk When the Moon is Full is not a picture book. These are journal entries about the author's monthly moonlight walks that she took with her children. Such a wonderful way to share nature with your child, and particularly delightful when read as a bedtime story. We read one entry each month.

Marc Just Couldn't Sleep makes Satch giggle. He's coined a phrase from the book for his own, "You took the wrong road...buy yourself a map". However, because we co-sleep, Satch always insists, "His mom should sleep with him so he won't be afraid".

Grandfather Twilight, also a favorite of one of my beloved beings. Satch loves how the pearl turns into the moon.

The Tomten is a bedtime book that we read in the winter season. It's very soothing. Afterwards, we like to pretend we have a Tomten watching over our family.

We're attempting to make chocolate beet root cupcakes for Valentine's Day and are awaiting the arrival of Satchel's Nomah. Have a good weekend. See you Monday Tuesday.

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Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Orca Dreams Part II


"he knew - and you and I know too - dreams really can come true" - Paul Owen (Davy's Dream)

 


Satch has an Orca whom he named Zorsha. They play together, cuddle together , and on very rare occasions...








NAP together.

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Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Old Skool


I've got mad Lego skillz, Yo!













Satch was pleased with the Lego B-boy and Boombox that I made. He's completely fascinated with breakdancing.

Check out "Grandmaster Satch" below and wait for the fancy floor moves at the end...

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Monday, February 09, 2009

Most Alive Monday: What Happens

"Mama, may I drink from this funnel?"

What happens when I say, "See for yourself".

















"Mama, how many cookies may I have?"

What happens when I say, "How many do YOU think you should have?"













(No, I did not let him eat all those cookies)


*About Most Alive Monday: I've decided to make at least one "most alive choice" each day and post my favorite each Monday. This, of course, is to motivate me to consciously "live juicy"! I hope you'll join me and share your "most alive moment" in the comments section so we may inspire each other.

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Wednesday, February 04, 2009

BONK!


No exciting story to tell. It did not happen during one of his leaps. He didn't fall off the trampoline. He was kneeling, leaned over to hand me his Lego creation and fell forward, whacking his noggin on the wood chair. Ice, Arnica gel and a quick check by the doctor. All is well, albeit swollen.

He donned his pirate headband to keep his long locks off his boo boo. He dried his tears (but left the snot) and sat for a photo.

I awoke with a sympathy headache this morn.

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Tuesday, February 03, 2009

Tagged Out

I was tagged again, first by Jenica (on facebook) and then by Jessica so I'm hoping this covers both. I know it's done with love and all, but to be truthful, it makes me a bit cranky.

25 Random Things About Me:

















1. i wanted to be an artist when i grew up or Pippi Longstocking
2. i seriously covet my friend paula's necklace
3. i'm a vegetarian
4. i have a carnivorous plant
5. i detest string beans, eggplant, iceberg lettuce
6. i met my husband on match.com (and by the way, today is the anniversary of our first date)
7. slurping sounds give me the heebee jeebees, as do the bee gees
8. i like cinnamon & cloves in coffee
9. my favorite director is Jean Pierre Jeunet
10. i don't wear a wedding band
11. i don't use a top sheet
12. can't tell the difference 'tween a tilde and a swung dash
13. i love the word swung dash (and ginchy, petrichor, enchanted and shenanigans)
14. i can lindy pretty well, but i don't do flips (and i photographed my swing idol, Frankie Manning)
15. i love cummings, neruda, rumi, oliver & haiku by krause
16. i have my original 1967 spirograph
17. i'm the luckiest person on earth (really, I am)
18. my cat's breath smells like a dead guppy
19. tall trees relax me
20. i taste pickles yearly hoping to like 'em, but never do
21. i once got my bra caught on the sign of the sullivan st playhouse (it's a long story - email me if you want to know)
22. eggnog doesn't even sound good
23. I HATE TO BAKE, but I do for special occasions!!!
24. i dislike tags, chain mail, fwds and memes
25. i feel too guilty to tag others so i don't

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Monday, February 02, 2009

Mom to Mom: Naomi Aldort

"We don't water a flower if it blooms,
we water it so it will bloom" - Naomi Aldort

Have you ever read a book that resonates with you in such a way that once you start marking your favorite passages, you realize that you've marked nearly the whole book? Well, that's what happened when I read Naomi Aldort's book. It's February and time for a new Mom to Mom interview and I am so very honored to introduce, Naomi...

Mom:
Naomi Aldort, PhD *Author disclaimed PhD as print error
Of:
Yonatan (22), Lennon (19), Oliver (15)
Where: Washington
Site:
Naomi Aldort


1. In what ways has becoming a mother changed you?


Motherhood brought me the greatest joy of being alive: The joy of getting outside of the self and focusing on someone else’s life. We always hear that giving is the greatest joy but I didn't really get it until I was a mother. It almost seemed like, until motherhood, we are disillusioned. We devote ourselves to ourselves thinking that life is about making me happy and giving to me, me, me. Motherhood is focusing on another; what a relief. It is so much more fulfilling and expanding.

I was already counseling parents even before I had children which made my arrival to mothering also useful for many more mothers and children. The assistance and counseling I offer mothers often helps them to stop looking for time for themselves and find fulfillment and rest in time with their child/ren.

We tend to believe that once we reach adulthood, we have arrived. Motherhood taught me that I never arrived and never will. I think true arrival is realizing that there is no where to go and this moment is all and is love. This is not particular to being an older mother, but I believe that my maturity at age 37, when my first son, Yonatan, was born, helped me to embrace the moment with unsurpassable joy.

My three children were born when I was 37, 41 and 44. Their current ages are: Yonatan 22, Lennon 18 and Oliver 15. You can find their information on my site and links to the sites of the two musicians.

2. What is one piece of advice you would like to share about mothering?

It would take a whole book to give a piece of advice, since I am also a professional. So I will be blunt and direct: Read my book, Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves and listen to the CDs on my site.

If I had to say something helpful in a couple of paragraphs, I would say listen to no one but your baby/child and to your own inner wisdom. We run into problems when we get confused by voices outside of ourselves, “she should sleep by herself; he should listen to me; he should get out of diapers; she should have manners; she should be kind to the baby, he should study... etc. Your child knows best.

Stay tuned and you will know how to read your child and respond from your own natural wisdom. If your wisdom is cluttered by anxiety from your own childhood, raise yourself alongside your child. Many of the mothers who call me for guidance and counseling focus on self-realization and inner peace. This gives the child a focused, clear, peaceful and wise mother.

Every stage in a child’s life is there for a purpose. We don’t send tubes of air into the mother belly to give the infant breathing lessons. When the time is right, the baby comes out and can breath. Same with walking and talking and then all other developmental stages. We don’t have to pull children into the next stage but to enjoy how they evolve in their own time and way.

In other words, mothers, follow your heart. Sleep with your babies and children, respond with love and affection, hold and help as much as they need and don’t seek the approval of relatives and friends through your children. There are many real life stories in my book to make this point clear and powerful.

As for behavior: Every mother would happily give up ever scolding, punishing or threatening if she only knew how to ensure that her toddler/child/teen would thrive and act responsibly without such painful measures. This is completely possible and prevalent in other cultures. A child behaves best when content, self-assured and feeling worthy and loved. She does her best not because she fears you, but because she wants to, of her own free will.

I can’t hold back saying: If you have a baby, hold her in your arms, breastfeed by request and sleep with her. Such a baby will develop optimally, feeling right about herself and learn, “to get what I want I do not need to cry or scream first.” Because, her littlest cues will be responded to and she will get in the habit of gentle communication from day one.

One last thing: Food is directly connected to behavior and emotional well being (as well as physical.) Avoid processed foods, sugar, colors and other toxins as well as vaccination. If you still believe that vaccinations work and do no harm, reconsider and study both sides with an open eye for marketing drive. If you already vaccinated your child, no need for guilt; learn to provide food that cleans the body of toxins.

In summary: Trust only you and your child. Stay authentic. Don’t make decisions based on pressure from the minds of others. You know to read your child and your child knows best. And, enjoy. If you don’t enjoy, question your direction and your authenticity. It is the greatest pleasure on earth to nurture a child into being.


3. How do you orchestrate your roles as mother, counselor, author.

When my children were young I was a mother first and only worked if they didn’t need me. I wouldn’t miss being with the children for anything. There is no career in the world that would take me away from the joy of being with my children. This is why writing my book took over five years. I wrote some articles, and counseled a few parents per week on the phone. I was always available to my children.

I was not child centered, but child lead. So if I had to counsel on a given day, I would spend time with each child first, make sure no one is hungry, needy, I made sure there was ready food, and, if the youngest wanted to be with me, I would choose with him a pile of books, blocks or puzzles and he would play quietly by my side. This was true with two, three and four year old, whoever was the youngest.

My children were content. I respected them, so they respected me. They never interrupted me unless the need was urgent. They knew their needs will be met.

If I was writing and a child came to me for attention, I would promptly interrupt, make a loving eye contact with the child and show my delight in seeing him (which was authentic.) I would then say, “I would love to ... (whatever he wanted me to do with him) and tell him that I am finishing the thought, or paragraph and will be with him. If he was a toddler I would just finish the sentence. An older child can wait a few minutes. I also did read or copy edited while being present with the children. I used to sit outside watching the kids in the sandbox while editing my writing. If they spoke to me, “mom look...” I looked and responded fully, often dropping my editing work.

As I write this article, my 18-year-old has just asked to talk to me and I noticed that I still drop everything to be with him. I delight in hearing what he has to say and being with him.

4. Your book, "Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves" is changing the way people view children and challenges us all to be our best and most authentic selves. What inspired you to write this book?

Wanting to give parents the joy I had and have and helping children to grow to their fullest power and potential. When I see parents struggling and I can save them the agony, I want to reach out and help. The best way to help the most parents and children is through a book. It is like seeing someone struggling to survive in the desert when knowing that around the corner there is fertile green land. I love parents and children and see my mission to bring connection and joy into their lives.

In addition, I want to bring peace to humanity. Peace starts in parent child relationships and reproduced from there.

5. What moves you, inspires you, fills your well?

I am moved to the depth of my soul by my three children. I am moved by parents and children around the world who I know through private phone sessions, phone classes and workshops. When parents take what they learn and bring peace, power and joy to their homes, I am grateful and delighted. I love counseling because of the amazing parents and children I meet whose lives are transformed. The courage and beauty I encounter leaves me with nothing but awe and gratitude.

Listening to my children and sharing in their interests is one of my greatest joys and through them, the love of classical music, good films and philosophy talks about enlightenment, human nature, science, the nature of reality and what we think of as “I am” and as “thought.”

This moment of answering these questions is another example of what nurtures me.
Thank you for the opportunity to share with mothers who start later in life.

*Most Alive Monday will resume next week.

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