Monday, February 20, 2023

Morty 2005 - 2023

Today, I was forced to make a difficult decision.

As you may know, Morty began losing weight rapidly, yet his check up last month left the vet scratching her head. His TFT and Renal Functions were good. She said I was "doing a great job of caring for a very sick cat" and she still can't believe he's lived this long with all his issues (Cardiomyopathy, Thyroid Disease, Kidney Disease and mini seizures). She said that due to his age (18) and all his issues, there was no point in putting him through invasive testing and to just keep on doing what I'm doing until something changes.

Well upon waking in the predawn hours this morning, I noticed that something did change. Drastically. His behavior was off. I took the day off and called the vet as soon as they opened. They said they would call me as soon as they could squeeze him in. That was at 2pm today.

The vet examined him and felt what she believed was a mass in his abdomen. She said that it would explain the sudden drastic weight loss, and other changes I had noted at his last visit. She said she truly felt that the right thing to do this point was to euthanize, because he will continue to get worse and he was no longer doing well.

Even though I know it was the most humane thing to do, it still breaks my heart. And I keep reminding myself that it's not another shoe drop, it's just life. And I'm grateful that Morty kicked ass for as long as he did because I know my son couldn't have handled another loss so soon after losing his dad. Not that it makes it any less painful, but I'm grateful that we had some time to heal before saying goodbye to another family member, albeit a floofy one.

For those who don't know, we adopted Morty 10 years ago along with his two senior housemates. Their owner died and apparently the shelter would not take them due to their older ages, so we took them. Morty was the youngest of the three, then 8 years old.

Morty was a true curmudgeon, though softened some over the years because we loved him hard. He wasn't good at catting...didn't care much for toys, and would spit out his cat treats. He rejected nearly every cat bed I ever bought him and preferred sleeping in the most uncomfortable places. He was not a fan of cuddling, but would allow us to pet him to a point. His favorite pastime was sitting on the deck and watch the neighbors through the railings. We used to pretend that he was yelling at kids to get off his lawn. In his old age, he would snuggle up to us and would actually tap us with his paw because he wanted to be petted. He would like to sit between my son and me on the couch. For this reason we would sometimes call him "Morty in the Middle".

He had other nicknames too:
Mortuccio
the tooch
Mortucci Bondaducci

(to name a few)

His cuteness was in direct proportion to his attitude. We are heartbroken.  We loved him and will miss him dearly.
More recently, and so very thin :(






Basket o' Morty

Snuggling hammock stand.



How is this comfortable?




Morty in the Middle


 

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Sunday, September 01, 2019

Unspeakable Sorrow


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Thursday, March 07, 2019

So Loved

“My ornery is a thing of beauty.” - Sheila Sue Kent Cox



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Monday, September 11, 2017

Linni and Loss

"Open your eyes and see the friends whose hearts recognize your face as kin, those whose kindness watchful and near, encourages you to live everything here." - John O'Donohue

Grief!  I lost someone very dear to me.  Again.  I can't find the words.  The only thing I can say right now is that Linni was the most brilliant and unapologetically human, free spirited, adventure loving, wise woman, I had ever known.  She always made me feel seen, heard, loved and celebrated in her presence.  I will miss her immensely.

Leaving for NY to attend her memorial and staying with my lifelong friend, Debi.  Staying with Debi will be the buoy to my sadness as we share so many beautiful memories.




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Sunday, August 13, 2017

Barbara Avery 1950 - 2017

"My heart has joined the Thousand, 
for my friend stopped running today" - Richard Adams 

I met Barbara when I was a child and she forever changed my life. Like most children I dreamed of having a pony and that dream came true one fateful summer day when I met Barbara. It wasn't a pony of my own that I received, but rather a whole world of wild graciously shared with me by a very kind, patient and impish woman. It wasn't long after that I began inviting myself over and whiled away the summer playing on her land. Climbing the apple tree. Sneaking a vertical climb into the cupola for a view so spectacular that to this day, I'm compelled to climb summits. She graced me with freedom and trust to roam the wonderland that was her property, to love and care for and ride her beloved horse Sundance. There were magical parties, dips in the pool and drives to Setauket with The Rolling Stones blasting out the opened windows. Lying in the hay bales watching the dust particles dance in the sunbeams, and the scent of sweet feed and saddles are forever etched in my mind. It was a time of laughter, exhilaration, enchantment, wonder, and adventure where I learned a new language, one of whinnies, not words. As an adult Sunny (I still have a lock of his mane) started visiting me in my dreams and in every dream he would take me flying to see the view from the top of the barn. I wrote her to tell her about it. I promised to visit and when I did I brought my little boy. It was a joy to spend the day with her and watching her wield her magic upon my son, I relived those moments she blessed me with. I will never forget her. I will forever be grateful to her. I will forever miss her.

Copy of letter in journal & a lock of Sunny's mane




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Friday, September 26, 2014

Seawater Begs the Pearl: Aunt Bea



There is some kiss we want with our whole lives,
the touch of Spirit on the body.
Seawater begs the pearl to break its shell.
And the lily, how passionately it needs some wild darling!
At night, I open the window and ask the moon to come
and press its face against mine.
Breathe into me.
Close the language-door,
and open the love-window.
The moon won’t use  the door,
only the window.

- Rumi























Photo: Beatrice & Philip Huntley with my mom.

It was a journey that entailed a 10 am Metro from VA to DC - and - Amtrak from DC to CT.  Then a roadtrip with my dear cousin Adelia that rolled us to her enchanted cottage in Searsport at 2:30 am.
When we awoke, we began our day Jan's homemade jam, then we drove another 2 1/2 hours to Jonesport and made it in time for the 11:00 celebration of my great aunt's life.

When I arrived in Maine and walked into the cottage, the scent of wood smoke immediately transported me to childhood summers with my Aunt Bea and Uncle Phil.  I remembered digging clams with my feet and running up the rocky cliff just as the tide came in to swallow up the beach.  If lucky, I would return with a pocket of sea glass for my efforts. 

Ours were large family gatherings around the table where the air was filled with laughter, and the bowls were filled with fresh chowder.  In the morning there were breakfasts of biscuits and homemade jam while beneath the window my aunt's poppies danced in the sea breeze. 

It was there that I met my first fox.  It was injured and my uncle was nursing it back to health.  There were jackrabbits too, big ones and barn swallows building mud nests under the eaves.  Sometimes I would find egg shells in the grass beneath and marvel.  We caught and released tadpoles from the pond beside their home.  We took walks in the woods to find the peat bogs where the mysterious pitcher plants grew in musky clumps.  Occasionally we would find a snake and bring it in the house to scare the ladies.  

They were good times, and I cherish those moments.

Beatrice Elaine Gray Huntley Urquhart 1930-2014

So many memories.
So much love.














































































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