The first is to be kind.
The second is to be kind.
And the third is to be kind." - Henry James
These are the ornaments that I made from the acorns Satch collected. We hung them on some fallen branches that we gathered for the vase on our table to celebrate the season (an idea that I ripped from RealSimple - I can't remember the last time I bought a magazine, but the holiday issue was too enticing).
I also designed some new goodies here!
We tried to do our holiday shopping early so we wouldn't have to deal with that pre-xmas craziness, so we can sit back and enjoy the shifting seasons and not contribute to the frenzy. (Can I say, by the way, that I resent seeing all the xmas decorations out before we've celebrated Thanksgiving? What kind of message is that giving to our children?) Toys R Us had absolutely nothing on my list (though they did have a lot of plastic crap and branded toys). I walked over to target and they didn't have any of the toys on my list either. I have now resolved to do all my shopping on line. We are now finished with Satchel's xmas shopping, 'cept for a season related book and an easel from Ikea.
Here it is:
- "Pocket Etch a Sketch" (red, not Diego or Spongebob)
- "Life On Earth Color Dominoes" by eeBoo (beautiful illustrations / no branding)
- "I Never Forget A Face" memory game by eeBoo (beautiful illustrations / no branding / multicultural)
- "Who Lives Where" game by Cadaco (simple wooden matching game)
- Mini Tonkas
- Musical Friends Lacing Cards by eeBoo
- Colorglow Flash Light by Hasbro/Playskool (a righteous piece of plastic)
- Tub Tunes Water Flutes by Big Boing
- A tadpole to frog metamorphosis toy for bath
- A hand painted dragonfly kite for spring
- A windup clown fish and submarine for bath
- some sea life for the bath tub
I felt sick. As I walked past I said, "Nice way to talk to your child, real NICE!" I wish I could have thought of a comment that might have helped the situation...to be an enlightened witness for the child. But I couldn't think of anything else to say because I was in shock. I remember reading in Jan Hunt's book, that we shouldn't turn away when we witness an abuse, we should act so the child feels seen. If we see a parent overreact due to stress, we should respond with something like, "It can be really stressful, is there something I can do to help?" In this way, it's not an attack on the parent, the child feels validated and yet it acknowledges that the situation is unhealthy while restoring some balance, consciousness.
However, in that toy section of Target, I felt paralyzed. Moments like that one make me realize that even on my worst day, I could never be THAT wretched.