Fox Love

She closed her eyes for a moment and took a deep breath. When she opened them, the fox was standing at the edge of the patio right outside her studio door. As the fox scampered off, she ran upstairs to get her camera. Her heart is still racing.

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Blizzard : Before, During and After

( My Poe in the snow)

Things I pondered whilst awaiting the plow: we complain about how stressed and tired we are and how we need more time off, then Mother Nature snow's us in and we complain that we can't get out of the house. It sucks shoveling all that snow for sure, but we are a given a choice as to the memory we make of it...

(Blizzard Blooms)

 We made ice lanterns.






















We typed letters to faraway friends.






















We made our Soul Silly

We dug out...

(The Big Dig - S digging out our neighbor)

and we dug in.

(Sweet Potato, Walnut & Goat Cheese Taco)

We made ice cream out of snow!

(Blizzard 2016 Flavor!)

We tasted icicles!

(every flavor of sky)

We stuffed our car full of sleds and pals and went sledding.



















Our neighbors decided to carve the mound of snow into a fire ring, complete with snow benches and that night we enjoyed a bonfire under the full wolf moon with wine for the bigs and hot cocoa for the littles. 

When we remember the blizzard of 2016, we will remember that beautiful night together around the fire...

and the stars...

and falling into bed smelling of wood smoke and moonlight...

and we'll remember all the fun things we did, not how many days it took to get plowed. out. 


We will always remember it as the one when we made magic out of a mess.

Fill, Fold, Repeat

Snowbound from the blizzard.  My boy and his pals play in the living room.  Loudly.  So loudly that it becomes unbearable.  Several times I request that they lower their voices.  I didn't want to end their play, or the noise altogether.  Just the volume.  I felt a headache coming on.  You know the feeling.  I surrendered, took medication, then resigned myself to the kitchen where I began preparing homemade vegetarian wonton soup. 

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it was all I could do.

Postcards From the Edge

I want to get personal about why this event means so much to me.

I want to do that by introducing you to my late friend Jon aka Sheena aka Candy Apple.   It was the 80s and Jon came out to the Hamptons (where I was living at the time) to visit a dear friend who lived in the cottage beside mine. That is how I met him, and it was the beginning of a friendship that I will never forget.
I remember how he would sneak over and tape a sign to my bedroom window so it would be the first thing I would see when I woke up and lifted the shade. Signs that read: "I'm watching you", and "I'm telling your mother", and other such silliness.

I remember that whenever he had just a little too much to drink, he would start speaking in fake french to anyone and everyone within earshot. I remember the looks on those faces as they tried so hard to understand what he was saying, trying to be polite, when he wasn't actually saying anything at all.

I remember how whenever anyone left his home, he would always shout, "THANK GOD THEY LEFT", every single time, no matter who it was.

I remember how he called everyone, "Blanche".

I remember how my face would hurt from laughing and how those little muscles between each rib that you never seem to notice suddenly became painfully noticeable.

I remember that most, the laughter, which was really just a bi-product of how much he loved living his life, and how fully he did that.

Shortly after I moved to NYC, he called me to come over. He wanted me to take a look at his eye. "I think", he said, "it's some sort of sty, but maybe you'll know". And so I did. And I never could get that day out of my head. How when I looked at his eye, I could hear myself swallow and how I could not say the words "Kaprosi Sarcoma", but instead heard my own voice as though disconnected from my body saying, "that's not a sty...you really need to see a doctor". I don't remember what we did that day because I can only remember that one moment, that and the flashback of the man with the cane that I saw at a party years before covered in lesions, how we locked eyes because he knew he was dying and he knew that I knew too. I never knew his name, but I knew too much.

My friend did go to the doctor, and it was KS, and the rest of what happened felt like standing at the front door of the express train, not being able to see where you're going, whizzing past the local, the blur, and the only thing between you and sheer terror was a small window and a false sense of security. Or at least it seemed that way because shortly after his diagnosis, the disease began to paralyze him. I was with him in the hospital when his family arrived. It was the only time I ever saw him cry. The next time I saw him was in hospice. I hope he heard what I whispered into his ear.
The thing is, this is just one story of many stories that are all a part of one sad story. Many have lost friends, sons, daughters, lovers, spouses. It was a dreadful time of suffering, fear and loss. In the years that followed, I was witness to miracles in medicine, discoveries, testing, counseling, and medications. It may not have happened in time to save my friend, but it happened in time to save countless others.

So, that is why this benefit is important to me. That is why I give what I can give in the form of a postcard size piece of art. Because while I no longer work on the front lines, I can still give. I give myself.

In memory of Jon Steinbacher.